Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Cards came from distant places, but none from close up!

I had a birthday recently and I was suprised at some of my distant friends, that I hardly every hear from, remembered and sent me best wishes. I wish I could return the polite favor, but truthfully, I do not even know what month some of these people were born in, much less the day! I just don't have a memory for that sort of thing! I try to see that my family always knows that I remember them on their special days, and I try to at least make them a cake, or take them out to dinner. On the flip side, some people close to me, that I thought knew when my birthday was, didn't even remember or just didn't even bother to to acknowledge it in any way. This whole thing has given me a strange feeling, happy & sad. Happy for the wishes from distant places, but sad that my family doesn't think much of me. What a cry-baby I have turned out to be! You'd think after having this many birthdays that it wouldn't be such a big deal. Pardon me while I go eat some dark chocolate! I think that I will ditch the housework today and get out and take some photos. It is unseasonably warm here (79 degrees expected high today) Maybe if I get out and do something different I can drop the "whine!"

5 comments:

Finding the Happy said...

I had this same realization around September. It's pretty disconcerting when people "close" to you seem clueless about a day that is significant...at least to you. What I realized in self-examination was that I too was guilty of this oversight and decided to be proactive and use technology to it's fullest. I joined Plaxo and sent out notices to everyone on my email list to update my address book with all the pertinent data, including birthdays. Now, 7 days ahead of time, I get a reminder from Plaxo that their birthday is coming up and I can even send an ecard and it's all free! Maybe now, the thought and energy I send out to others will come back to me or maybe not. Either way, I feel better letting people near and far from me know that their birth means something to me.

Anonymous said...

aw, Tuff, I would feel the exactly same if my nearest and dearest forgot my birthday - sheepishly hurt!

Happy belated birthday!!

Anonymous said...

oh, whoops, that was me just then - Jellyhead

Joann said...

Happy Day.

Motherkitty said...

Happy belated birthday!!! I KNOW exactly how you feel. Husband and I just had our 38th anniversary yesterday and I'm still waiting for him to say "happy anniversary" to me. (He didn't forget either.)