Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Calming down

I was crazy for a while until I read some of your supportive comments and emails. I thank you all so much for taking the time to comment on my "crisis". My son is in the teenage independence years, and it is difficult for me to let him go. Sometimes I watch my life from the sidelines. I think it is because of the time I have spent lately with my elderly Mom. I picture myself in a few more decades right there where she is. At the same time my son is breaking away (as he should at age 17). I have always been sort of resistant to change; even though I know that is what life is all about. I miss my little boy who used to like "me" the best! Now he likes his friends better, trusts them more, confides in them. I have come to terms with this the past week, and I am not so upset about it anymore. I will let him go to Europe. I will trust him to learn by his mistakes. I will pray and keep my fingers crossed that he will do the right thing. I will be there for him when he needs me. It is all I can do because I really don't have a choice!

6 comments:

meggie said...

So glad you have calmed down. He does sound like a great young man. I am sure he will have the sense to learn from his mistake.

My worst moment was when my wonderful intelligent beautiful daughter came home, & told me she had got tattooed. I was devastated, cried for a week. She is 37 now & still doesnt regret her choice.

Sandy said...

Your son has always been a good boy and yes he is asserting his independence and he listens more to his peers than to you...But he'll be back to his mom again. Don't worry it will happen because this is only temporary. And when he returns to you he will wonder how you suddenly got so smart in such a short time, because right now he thinks that you don't know anything.tyxpe

Sandy said...

About the last word in my previous comment...That's just the word verification written in the wrong place.

Kerri said...

I'm so glad you're feeling a bit calmer Tuff. It's really, really, really hard when they start pushing away from you and begin liking, trusting, confiding in friends more than you, especially when the friends lead them down paths you've tried to steer them clear of.
But you did have a choice Tuff. You could've chosen to "sit on" him, but you chose to let him grow, and learn from his mistakes. You're a wise and loving mom.

Terri said...

Ahhh.... that's good!

Yes, it's always that initial shock that knocks ya down!

It'll allllll work out and he'll really turn out jussstt fine!!

How could he NOT w/ you in his life caring about him.....

Paradise Driver said...

"My father was so dumb when I was 17. I was amazed how much he had learned by the time I turned 21.
misquoted from Mark Twain