Tuesday, March 06, 2007

Early flight

I have no idea what I am doing up this late, reading your blogs! I have an early flight to Virginia to check on my Mom. I try to go up about once a month but it is hard to leave Florida. I am worried that I will have to put my Mom in assisted living. She gets more helpless every time I see her. She wants to stay in her own house; it is difficult to explain to her that she is not very safe doing that. Tomorrow I will take her to the doctor, she is seeing a rhumatologist, for the tingling and weakness in her hands. She really needs someone to come to her house a couple of hours a day to assist her. My brothers and I will be interviewing an agency for this on Thursday. I can at least visit her for a while (I will be coming home on Monday) and clean her house and do her laundry. I worry about my Mom all the time. I wish we lived closer, but she will not consider coming to Florida. She doesn't want to leave "the boys" (my grown brothers!) I hope we can keep her in her home for a few more years, but I honestly think that she would be so much happier in a group home with her peers. I guess this is what we all must face as we get older. Enough of my tale of woe, I better finish packing and charging up my ipod. E-see you when I get back. Oh, hell, where is that coat?

6 comments:

Terri said...

Oh, what a good son you are...
It's so hard to be away from your elderly parents or grandparents ...

you do worry constantly!!!

I remember when we had to move our dear old Grandma into an assisted living facility. It was quite sad and hard ... she had lived in her home for 68 years... but we worried constantly when she was in her own home ...
we felt sooo much better when we knew that people would be checking on her....

She lived to the ripe old age of 101. She was my hero and I miss her every single day... I am all teary right now thinking of her.

Good luck with your mom....
I feel for you....

I already told my mom that she's living w/ us someday... she and my dad.

Motherkitty said...

Tuff, have a good flight up north. Hope everything turns out okay with your mom. I know it's rough for a daughter to take care of things long-distance, but you're {{tuffenuf}}, aren't you? Each of us must face the inevitable. Catch you when you return!

Joann said...

...good luck. Many of my taxi customers go through this. Just keep her safety in mind.

Eternally Curious said...

These decisions are never easy to face. My thoughts are with you, Tuff.

Abandoned in Pasadena said...

Hope all goes well on your visit and you get things worked out so that you won't have to worry so much. I'm sure when the time comes that your mom will consent to moving into a more suitable place for her. It's not easy being a long distance daughter I know and my heart goes out to you.

Kerri said...

I hope you had a nice visit with your mom. It's quite a worry, I know.
It was very hard for my brother to convince my now 90 yr old dad (in Australia) to go into an assisted living facility. He's happy there now, thank heavens. I'm no help being all the way over here. All I can do is call Dad on the phone and chat. It's still not an easy job for my brother taking care of dad's needs.
You're a good person to care so much about your mom and take good care of her.